Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy REBT – My Notes
REBT (Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy) Practitioner Certification – Beginner to Professional
ABC of REBT Therapy
Somebody activates your thinking by a emotional event which is when you start believing possible irrational beliefs and the consequences are that you think you can or cannot do something.
Pre requisites and pre supposition
Flexibility of thought.Your thoughts must be flexible. Reactionary type of behavior.
Human beings are fallible but not broken
None of your clients are broken.
Accepting ourselves and situations
Don’t judge others. Give space and opportunity.
Good Psychological and mental health. No making excuses and blaming others
Changing irrational beliefs
Challenge beliefs to change.
Change is not in therapy room
Clients will have to change themselves
You cannot fix anybody
If you want more – take more action that allow you to do it.
Distinction of Good emotional health
Take responsibility of your own behavior
Discover the joy in taking calculated risks
Freud personality emotion model
Emotional mindID – people who don’t careSelf worth – high
Intelligent mind and Ego-good moral and values
Intelligent mind and Calculated risk
Analytical mind and Super ego
Can’t do this and that
Self worth – low
Labelling people and box people as someone – depressed, ADHD, Libran
Responsibility is the ability to respond
Emotional mind, Intelligent mind, Analytical mind
Consequences of ABC
People talk about consequences first
Expecting to be treated fairly like we want to treat others
Unhealthy negative emotions
Anger, anxiety, stress etc.
Healthy anger can help you change, but unhealthy anger will not help you change
Emotional consequence – overthinking
Meta emotional consequences – where are we going
Limiting beliefs – maybe because of experience
Note to self: add business and investing in your syllabus – also invest in your self – what is investing? Meta model – NLP
Activation and triggers – what triggers delimitation?Situational activation and critical activation
Events that create emotions and limiting ideas eg. Someone’s death or some event that happened years ago
Perpetuating rational beliefs
Negative and inflexible beliefs
Taking conscious decisions
Repetition creates skills – also creates confidence
Trying to find approval of everybody – not possible. Do you want to please everyone?I Should never be angry. Is that possible?I Should never be depressed. Is that possible? Are you good enough. Will you ever be?
Others should treat me fairly. Is that right?
Should be right every time. Nobody should criticize me. I don’t like to be corrected.I should get what I want when I want it.
Things should always go their way.Can’t deal with situations. I am super human.Helping children all the time.
Are you good enough?You feel good enough most of the time. But when you don’t you stop yourself.The positive good enough – don’t be a perfectionist.The negative good enough – don’t hold back.Is it knowledge? Then get it.
Situational events. Getting upset at situations and events and then colouring everything negatively. Example all women are bad. All men cannot be trusted. All Muslims are terrorists.
Perpetuating beliefs. Like a box of beliefs they keep. They will not change their belief.
If you are focusing on something and although you believe it is bad then you will never be able to avoid it even after trying.
My notes: there are 3 types of people. One who will run away from any challenge. 2 people who will fight the challenges in which they are thrown but will avoid other challenges mauve because of the comfort zones. Other who are constantly putting themselves up for challenges.
Subjective unit of distress SUD
Subjective unit of experience SUE
Do we have patterns and daily routines that hold us back.
Doing the same things but expecting different results.Contributing selflesslyBeing a role model